31 May Considering Divorce? Ask the hard questions.
When a marriage breaks down, emotions and stress can run high. Of course, every marriage has its ups and downs, so knowing whether what you are feeling and experiencing is just a bump in the road or a sign that it’s time to throw in the towel can be a challenge.
If you have been considering filing for divorce, asking yourself these tough, introspective questions may help you determine if it is time to call a family law attorney:
1. How Did You Get to This Point?
This is often the hardest question, but it’s important to evaluate the situation fully so you know why you are considering getting a divorce. What has changed in your relationship in recent weeks or months? The reasons for considering divorce are not always one-sided; evaluate how your own contributions to the marriage have helped shape your current relationship.
2. What, if Any, Steps Could Save Your Marriage?
Have you communicated your frustration or unhappiness to your spouse, and has he or she truly heard you?
Before you decide to meet with a divorce attorney, evaluate whether there is anything that could save your relationship. Some couples find that working through their problems with a marriage counselor or couples therapist can help them find happiness in their marriage again.
3. Do You Still Have Feelings for Your Spouse?
If you still love your spouse but are considering divorce because of financial stress, a perceived power imbalance in your relationship, or other outside factors, you may be able to salvage your relationship. This is an example of a situation where working with a trained therapist may help.
4. How Would a Divorce Impact Your Family?
Even uncontentious divorces can be emotionally and financially difficult. If you have children, you should also evaluate how a divorce would impact them. Of course, children are also impacted by parents who are constantly arguing or whose relationship simply isn’t good, so you need to do some soul-searching to determine what would truly be in not only your best interest, but in theirs as well.
Understand that divorce usually means financial changes, as well as changes to your traditions and lifestyle. Consider whether you are ready to face those challenges and whether you have a support system of friends and family around you to help you through the process. Odds are good that your friends and loved ones just want you to be happy.
5. Will a Divorce Make You Happier?
In most cases, people considering divorce do so because they are no longer happy in their relationship with their spouse and want to change that. Evaluate whether, and how, getting divorced would change your frame of mind and identify what you really want.
Understanding what is most important to you can help you conceptualize whether getting divorced is the best way to achieve your goals and live a happier, more fulfilled life.
If You Are Ready to Discuss Divorce, a Family Law Attorney Can Help
Every marriage is different and decisions to end marriages are deeply personal. Asking yourself these questions can help you determine what your next steps should be. If those next steps are leading toward dissolving your marriage, working with a skilled family law attorney can help ease the stress of divorcing your spouse. This, in turn, can help you get to the next chapter of your life as quickly as possible while protecting your interests. It is important to have an experienced, knowledgeable family law attorney by your side who can advocate on your behalf. To learn more and to schedule a free consultation, contact us online today or call 619-866-3756.
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