Puja Sachdev | August 9, 2023 | Divorce
When you first got married, you expected that your relationship with your spouse would last until “death did you part,” so to speak. But since that wonderful day, things have changed. Your marriage just doesn’t feel the same, and something feels “off” about your relationship. Your gut instinct is telling you that the marriage is over.
Acknowledge the Signs You Are Seeing
The hardest part of ending a marriage is acknowledging the signs of distress in the first place. Until you acknowledge them, your marriage can only continue to deteriorate.
The most common signs that your marriage is ending are as follows:
- You and your spouse are no longer intimate or alone together
- You’ve seen signs that your spouse is cheating (or you have cheated on your spouse)
- You are constantly angry or sad when around your spouse
By acknowledging these signs, you might be able to halt the decline of your marriage. It is still likely to end in divorce, but if you act quickly enough, you might have an amicable, or at least uncontested, divorce.
Plan For Post-Marriage Life
Once you have acknowledged that your marriage is likely going to end, you should plan for the future. Get your finances in order and research future living options. If you have children, develop a preliminary child custody and support plan. These plans may have to change once you talk to your spouse, but you should determine these priorities upfront.
Discuss the Divorce With Your Spouse
One of the biggest mistakes that couples make is that they don’t discuss a possible divorce until any chance to salvage the marriage is long gone. By then, both partners are often furious with one another, and any discussions are bound to go very poorly.
While it is undoubtedly difficult to discuss divorce, you should let your spouse know that you are considering it or have decided it is necessary. There is a chance that you and your spouse might salvage the marriage, but that is only likely to happen if you are honest with each other and acknowledge the gravity of divorce.
If these talks go well, you may be able to come to a mutual agreement. Even if they don’t, they likely went better than they would have if you waited.
Surround Yourself With Support
Once your divorce is inevitable, you are likely to be emotionally overwhelmed. Ending your relationship with your spouse is similar to the death of a loved one. You will grieve, even if the last few years of the marriage weren’t good.
With that said, talk to your friends and loved ones about what is happening. Consider seeking therapy as well, as this is a hard time in your life that you shouldn’t have to go through alone.
Hire an Experienced Divorce Lawyer
The divorce process in California is complicated, even if it is amicable. There is a lot of paperwork to fill out and many details you may never have thought of. A San Diego divorce attorney will simplify the process and make sure you don’t make mistakes.
Acceptance Takes Time
For most people, acceptance is a process. It starts once you acknowledge the signs that your marriage is in trouble and usually ends around the time that you first speak to a divorce lawyer.
Some will start to accept more quickly, but others will suffer depression long after the divorce is complete. The best you can do to reach acceptance is to be honest about your feelings and seek help if and when you need it.
Contact Our Divorce Law Firm in San Diego, CA
Sachdev Legal Group, APC
2851 Camino del Rio S #430
San Diego, CA 92108